Special Ed wins the race!!!

24 05 2011

For any readers who did not know, my sweet husband, Eddie the Baker to all his AA friends, passed away on April 20th.

He fought as hard as anyone could possibly fight. In the end, he won the battle. Eddie kept his faith until the end. He passed as peacefully as he had hoped.

In March, our liver specialist told us that Ed’s body would only hold out for about a year. With all that we had done, still, his organs could only take so much before beginning to give out. It was time to tell the children. As you can imagine, that was a difficult task. Ed loved his three girls, Cheryl, Christine and Fawn. He realized that each one has a different personality and he always tried to give them the freedom to be who God created them to be. They would probably be surprised to know how many times he has called out their names, asking God to lead them, draw them and protect them.

Death by cirrhosis of the liver is normally very painful and prolonged. We both knew that. Our faith in a loving and merciful God had never been more precious to us. Ed and I have prayed at the end of every day for years. Wether we were embraced in a hug,(our normal prayer position) or over the phone from far away, we always prayed. We talked about seeing Jesus face to face, what Heaven is going to be like, will we recognize each other in Heaven, and how scary it is to look death in the eye. For a Believer, being dead is not scary. It is the process of dying that was worrisome to us. Especially when diagnosed with such a horrible liver disease. Our prayers began to include a request for a peaceful passing from this life into eternity for my beloved. God is faithful and He answered our prayers.

Together, Ed and I planned the type of memorial he wanted. He did not want a solemn procession but rather a joyful celebration. He wanted folks to know that he had lived a good life and had enjoyed it. Laughter was a huge part of his life.

Ed chose the songs and the speakers he wanted to represent his life. His memorial service was like nothing I have ever experienced. Many who attended have echoed that sentiment. It was unique to my Eddie. We called him Special Ed for a reason. There is not another in this world like him.

Ed touched many lives in AA and out. He had more friends than he realized. The people who showed up to pay their respect to my husband have been a blessing and a testimony to the life he lived. The folks who have sent cards, texts, emails and phone calls to me have helped me through the grieving process. Our three daughters and their husbands have been a wonderful support as they too grieve. Tony and Brandon bless me beyond measure.

My husband won his race, he kept his faith and he graduated the program of AA by dying sober on April 20, 2011.


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24 05 2011
Lydia

I’m very sorry for your loss.

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29 05 2011
candress

Thank you Lydia.

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26 05 2011
Beckysita

So well-written! My favorite part, “graduated by dying sober.” What a testament Ed was to God’s strength and grace. It truly was the BEST memorial service ever. I need to show you the video I took of the dancing!! Remind me.

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28 05 2011
candress

I can’t wait to see it Becky. Thanks again for all your help. You are the best nose and glasses buyer on the east coast.

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29 05 2011
Darlene

Keeping up with My Friend Coni and all she gives to this amazing world!!
I love you, Coni,
YOur Friend, Darlene

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29 05 2011
candress

Thank you friend.

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14 10 2012
Crissy

I’ve only now just had the strength to read and see this. I still feel the loss so deeply. Thank you.

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14 10 2012
candress

I understand.

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