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17 10 2007

This is not a suggestion, it is a command from the Lord. Sometimes, I grumble at the thought of forgiving some of the jokers that have made my life difficult in one way or another. There have been more than a few times in my life when I whined the “I didn’t do anything to deserve that” song. There is no need to go into all that because we have all heard it a thousand times, however, I would like to share some things I have learned along the way. If you can read this with a tone of voice, please make it an understanding one and not a condemning one.

  1. Refusing to forgive keeps me in bondage to the offense, making me a prisoner of the pain.
  2. Sometimes it is wisest to forgive without ever seeing the person again. Never put ourselves in physical danger. Use wisdom.
  3. Sometimes we can forgive without speaking to the person again. Manipulators who are forgiven will still manipulate.
  4. Forgiving someone does not mean I am responsible to help them see the error of their ways.
  5. Keeping numbers 2 and 3 in mind,; it is possible to forgive someone who has passed away.
  6. Some people do not deserve to be forgiven by any rational standard. Forgive them anyway.
  7. Resentment in the Latin means to feel again. When I allow a resentment to remain, I am feeling the hurt all over again each time I think of it. And I think of it a lot. It is mental torture.
  8. Just because we haven’t completely forgotten the pain does not mean that we have not truly forgiven.
  9. Forgiving is not a feeling, it is a decision.
  10. Unforgiving requires a hardened heart and hard hearts don’t hear God so well.
  11. Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Lead us not into temptation for Thine is the kingdom and the glory and power forever.
  12. Sometimes I can be the one who is big enough to forgive; sometimes I need someone to be big enough to forgive me.

I am forgiven. I am forgiving. I am moving forward.



6 responses

17 10 2007
shirley logan

Thanks Connie everytime i read your blog is sort of confirmation to what I have be talking to God about. The words said are so true. Stay honest with your thought.


17 10 2007

Non-I so enjoy reading your blogs. You are quite the poet. I just read your b-day one and had to cry at the part about your mom wishing you happy birthday…a)because it made me miss your sweet mama and b)because it’s so true that the mom’s wish is the best wish, maybe because she and only she can so vividly remember that day. Thanks for the encouragement and words from the Lord. I LOVE it when He speaks to us through Nature too. Moss really does rock! I love you and miss your smiling face. Thanks for blessing my baby…we’re blessed to have our Noni. See you in January….


18 10 2007

My favorite was “forgiven manipulators can still manipulate.” Amen!!! Sometimes forgiveness is best maintained from a safe distance until some of the radioactivity dies down from the area!

Forgiveness is not wincing when I think of someone. And the hardest person for me to forgive is myself- I think I’m the only person on earth I actually expect to be perfect!

Love commenting on your blog- what fun, what fun!!!


18 10 2007
Nancy (Girlfriend)

Hi Girlfriend! I still say you need to pursue publishing that “awesome” children’s book. You definitely have been gifted to write. I couldn’t stop reading. I love you bunches and can’t wait to spend this weekend with you and “special” Ed in the mountains. Tell Ed not to forget his “rock” for the dinner theatre! (Ha!)


19 10 2007

thank you for including me in your blog list.VERY COOL…
I have really enjoyed this one. Forgiveness is a big thing.
I need to learn about blogging you are my first! And a late Happy Birthday to you! LOVE Pamela


22 10 2007

Angela, I am so impressed! You solved the puzzle of how to do an avatar. You go girl!


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